Kiss and cry

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I have been dealing with everything that happened in the past year for a few weeks now. That is not always easy because how do you process something like that. And then suddenly something comes your way that helps enormously. In my case a movie: Kiss and cry. When I read the description I had to swallow, it is about a girl with a rare form of throat cancer. Before I dared to take a look, I first looked up some more information. It is based on a true story. Despite the intense subject, I still wanted to see it.

The recognizability: the chest tightness, the tumor on the right side of the trachea, the doctor's approach to the bad news conversation (she asks him very positively if everything is okay). This recognizability is also very confronting. After all, I have also been through this.

There are also many differences, she was only 17 years old when she got cancer, she had a temporary tracheastoma, the tumor was against her thyroid gland so that they could not operate immediately. She had chemo to make the tumor smaller with all the side effects that come with it. And we had a different type of cancer (she had a clear-cell sarcoma and I had an adenoid cystic carcinoma).

I had to cry a lot during and after the movie. Although it was intense to watch it also did me good. Knowing that you are not the only one going through this. And also a bit of processing, during the film I also saw my own process. It took me a few days to process but I'm glad this crossed my path.

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